So yesterday had an anatomy scan and all 4 babies were doing good as can be. They all had 4 chamber in there heart and oh oh oh the boys displayed their peter's proudly so that a picture could be taken. I laughed an them. They all seem to have their own personalities and they haven't even joined us in the world yet. Emma likes to ball up in the mornings and makes my belly look really lumpy. Jr kicks and hits the hardest. He moves a whole heck of a lot. Henry likes to push up and out on my right side ribs (and believe me it hurts like hell). Lilly is my gate keeper. She my be the smallest of the lot but she is definitely the boss. My sonographer said she was quad blocking when I said she was the little gate keeper. I started laughing so hard when she said that. Can't wait to hold these little munchkins in my arms. Wish Nick would have been there but I was happy to have Rosemary take his spot in his absence.
Now for my vent of the day or maybe vents....
Being in the military I understand that there are times that your job will take priority over family but it's a hard thing to handle when your extremely pregnant. Nick for about 3 wks now comes home on the average between 6pm-8pm. It puts a lot of stress on me because I can't really use the oven or stove to cook so I'm stuck microwaving the same kinds of food or eating out. I can't count on him for much of anything any more and it sucks. To make matters worse something that has bothered me for a while but I held in (except for some smart remarks here and there) just hit me all at once today. I love my husband and he is a great man and I know he's not nor will he ever be perfect. Having said that this is what's been bothering me/ hurting me for a while...I bought Nick an iPhone about a year ago and at first things weren't too bad but over time he has seriously become addicted to it. Whether if it's Facebooking, txting or playing Angry Birds he is always on it from the time he comes home til he falls asleep with it in his hands. He would rather be on that thing than spend anytime with me. When I make smart comments to him about it he'll say that we are spending quality time cause I'm sitting in the same room with him. I think it's been bothering me a lot more lately because he's only home for 2 or 3 hrs before he falls asleep and he chooses to be on his phone rather than spend time with me. I txted him earlier today and told him that I had news about a crucial appt at UNC but that I could wait to tell him about it until he got home. Well when he got home it was more important to send an email for work than it was for him to get the info about the appt. It's 11:23pm and he still doesn't know squat about the appt. When I got upset because I walked he was on his phone typing up that email I decided to take a shower to try and calm myself so that I wouldn't let my blood pressure rise. He came in half way thru and got upset with me for getting upset with him. I can't catch a break with him right now. Lately he is making me feel so guilty for being pregnant and needing so much help or wanting him to be a part of this pregnancy. I don't know how to get through to him about how much his actions are hurting me. And I am so scared that this behavior is gonna continue after the kids arrive. I don't want them to take a back seat to his phone. I know a lot of what I feel is intensified because the hormones are off the charts; I just don't know how to deal with it.
Vent #2...This is just in addition to Wednesday's post. Before you cast stones you should try putting yourself in the other person's shoes first. If I've never confided in you, you don't know me personally or if you just met me don't assume that I don't know crap and need advice or guidance. If you have children but have not had them with in the last 15 to 20 yrs you really can't understand what I'm going through or the things I have to deal with since things have changed so much over time. There are so many possible complications and scary situations to deal with starting early in a pregnancy with higher order multiples that truly only medical professionals and other mothers in this situation can comprehend. As for general situations such as getting ready for the babies homecoming and knowing what's a necessity for them people need to comprehend that because this pregnancy is high risk we had to start planning for all that when I entered my 2nd trimester about 2mths ago. Every time I speak up and say I don't need someone's advice they get all butt hurt and think that I'm being ungrateful, rude and/or offensive. Get a clue, take a look in the mirror and realize that you are the one being rude and offensive for assuming that I don't know anything and needed your advice in the first place. When you assume things you make an ass out of you and me. I think everyone should stop and think of before they offer advice especially if they are going to get offended when the receiver is not wanting it. I'm guilty of doing it too but I don't really get offended when someone tells me in any way shape or form that it is not welcomed. It is ultimately that persons life and you just need to let them live it, good or bad. Most people will ask for help when they need it. I might wait til I have exhausted all other options but I will eventually ask for help if I need it. I seriously miss my MIL cause I know she would be here making me laugh telling me to tell people to F off when they gave me unsolicited advice. I miss that crazy old Sophia more than anyone can know. (well maybe not more than her own kids but still a close 2nd)
Oh and I really want to say a special thank you to all the quad mom's I've met online. You all have helped me out tremendously since I've met you all. It's comforting to know that I can get advice so easily from other women that have or are going through a quad pregnancy.
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